Redirect, Don’t React: The Power of Positive Parenting Through Respectful Redirection

As parents, we’ve all been there—the moment when you walk into a room and “Uh-oh!” happens. Maybe it’s crayon marks on the wall, the dog’s water bowl dumped out, or a sibling scuffle brewing. The natural instinct is often to yell, scold, or react out of frustration.

But here’s the truth: teaching children what to do instead of only what not to do is the key to fostering long-term, positive behavior. Redirecting calmly, with understanding, helps children learn appropriate choices and strengthens your bond with them.

Here are three common real-life scenarios with practical alternatives for gentle redirection:

1. Drawing on the Walls

You find your child scribbling a mural across your living room wall.

First instinct: “Stop! What are you doing? We don’t draw on walls!”

Instead, try:

“Wow! I love how creative you are! It’s so fun to see your drawings. But walls aren’t for coloring. Let’s grab some paper (or your drawing pad) so you can keep making your beautiful art!”

Why it works: It acknowledges their creativity, maintains connection, and guides them toward an acceptable alternative.

2. Jumping on the Couch

Your child is bouncing wildly on the furniture.

First instinct: “Stop it right now! You’ll break the couch!”

Instead, try:

“Whoa, looks like you have lots of energy! The couch isn’t safe for jumping, but let’s go outside (or to your play mat/trampoline) where you can jump as high as you want!”

Why it works: It recognizes their need for movement and channels it to a safe space instead of just stopping the behavior.

3. Throwing Toys

Your child is upset and starts throwing blocks or toys across the room.

First instinct: “Don’t throw things! What’s wrong with you?”

Instead, try:

“I can see you’re feeling frustrated. Toys aren’t for throwing because they can break or hurt someone. Let’s take a break together, or you can squeeze your stress ball or pillow instead.”

Why it works: It validates the child’s feelings, explains the consequence, and offers a safe outlet for strong emotions.

Final Thought: Calm Redirection Builds Lasting Behavior

Parenting is hard. But practicing redirection over reaction teaches children self-control, problem-solving, and helps them feel supported even when they’ve made a mistake.

It may not be perfect every time, and that’s okay. The goal is progress, not perfection.

Stay calm, be kind, and guide gently. Your child—and your household—will be better for it.

Ready to Explore Positive Parenting Together?

Every family is unique, and sometimes a little extra guidance can make all the difference. If you’re interested in learning more about how positive redirection and gentle parenting strategies can work for your family, let’s connect!

I offer personalized consultations to help parents build practical, compassionate tools that encourage healthy behavior and reduce stress at home.

Schedule a consultation by submitting a consult request form on the home page, emailing me, or reaching out via phone call/text to see if my services are the right fit for your family. Let’s work together to create a calmer, more connected home environment!

Email: margaret@shortsupportconsulting.com

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